Yang Fire and Yin Fire Compatibility in Saju: Sun and Candle
Daylight and lamplight: both Fire, one broad and loud, one narrow and deep.
Both of you are Fire, but you burn differently. Yang Fire, the Sun, lights up a whole room and loves a crowd. Yin Fire, the Candle, is the warm light in one window, devoted to a few people. The Candle admires the Sun’s confidence; the Sun is moved by how carefully the Candle remembers things. You both run warm, and conversations between you rarely go cold.
Next to the Sun, a candle is hard to see. The Sun can take over the social calendar and the stories, and the Candle quietly feels like the plus-one in its own relationship. The Sun, meanwhile, finds the Candle’s late-night worrying hard to follow. The Sun gets over things in an hour; the Candle is still turning them over at 2 a.m.
Make room for the Candle’s kind of evening: small dinners, one friend instead of ten, long talks with the phones away. The Sun can practice asking a follow-up question and then waiting. The Candle can tell the Sun what it needs instead of hoping it’s noticed; the Sun is generous, just not observant. A house needs both kinds of light, and you have both.